And for my 2020 foresight, I guess I will need a smarter SMART phone to help me with more joy and less obsession . . .
Oh, yes. Another clarification is needed for a my new SMART phone. Literally, a "phone" is a sound and a "telephone" is transmitted sound. The sound that I plan to make will be more in person and less through technology.
Here's how I'll use my not-so-SMART telephone:
1. SMV. I have deleted Facebook, Messanger, Apple News, and the YouTube app off of my cell phone. This will help. I still keep connected to the news, but I don't want to be obsessed. Also, I don't know about you, but for me, Social Media Voyeurism (SMV) engenders FOBLO, the fear of being left out of tango events one sees on social media. (FOBLO is not just fear for millennials who made up the term.) I wish to have a 2020 vision with less and less regret that I am not present in all the photos of my favorite dancers dancing at a festival or milonga I did not attend. I am changing notification settings on my not-so-smart phone and spending more time on my truly SMART phone--talking to a diversity of people. The decision to turn off the notifications takes some smart common sense.
2. Engage my maturity and resiliency skills. Being-happy-with-what-you-have is a difficult task for everyone striving to mature and grow spiritually. So FOBLO is a monster not only for a generation who has grown up on selfies but everyone engaged in social media. As for me, I want to be continually working on "growing up," being on a path of an ever-maturing person, and on a path of multiple passions to pursue in life.
3. Time for depth. An example just in tango is my resolution to even celebrate "being left out." I can celebrate having time for other things, such as reading that book on tango orchestras; practicing more by myself. (I will have week-long quests to dance every day--even at work with my door closed, but every day.) Also, I may enjoy just giving my feet a needed break. Who knows? Perhaps, I enjoy a needed vacation from tango to broaden my life in things not related to tango, such as, reading more, writing, learning French, working out or hiking more, exploring more tai chi and getting great sleep.
4. The spiritual part: There's just no time for missing out or having FOBLO if my 2020 foresight gives me "JOLO," the joy of living omnipresent. Coming into the New Year, I am happy to focus on my health and well being more than ever before. Back in 2017 my resolution was to give up [unhealthy] tango--late-night tango. I have done really well at that, and I recommend it to everyone that we all eschew late milongas for the most part or at least promote early milongas in our local communities because sleep and health are two sides of the same coin. So my first tango event in 2020? Houston--a marathon--but I will only attend the early events. This is the practice of living JOLO. Foresight has a 2020 Vision.
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