|The vintage embrace comes from being not doing: |
Being there over time.
The embraced is learned from being not doing!
The first step that few dances ritualize is the step we take toward each other in order to embrace. Then we wait for the embrace to settle, sensing the heartbeat of our partner. Then the second step in tango is what your teacher or partner taught you by doing.
The embrace is you, who you are and who you are learning to be. The embrace is being present, not presently doing. The first step of tango is the step together and the embrace. I fear that if you attempt to acquire the tango embrace via learning-by-doing, your progress may be thwarted.
- Be a child who just fell, hurting yourself and then accepting the comforting embrace of a father, a sibling or mother.
- Be the pacifist sister, giving the paradoxical embrace of her brother upon his return from war--with tears of relief for her brother and tears for the victims of war.
- Be the bystander who accepts the needy embrace of a survivor at the scene of an accident.
- Be the Father who opens his arms in the forgiving embrace for his prodigal daughter after 10 years of waiting for her affection to return to his open arms.
- Be the greatest lover ever for the one who has not made love for years in your arms as she melts into your acceptance of her thirsty embrace--drinking up the basic human need for human touch, too long withheld in the drought of a touch-phobic modern culture.
The thirsty embrace
- Be there for your partner as the only person in the world in your heart-felt faithful embrace with eyes and heart just for him.
- Be the life-long partner who holds another as if the first time after a long life together, tasting with every last cell in your body the vintage embrace.
- Be you, even the you, you did not know. Embrace yourself.
Learning-by-Being may just take over your life. . .
. . . and tango may not become just a metaphor for life, but life, a metaphor for tango.
Sculpture is Richard Matzkin's tribute to growing old and in love with his wife. Photo by Beverly Mann.
Art by Amy Erikson. See her tango-inspired works at http://www.etsy.com/shop/amyartist