tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8035244062520832583.post7564694888620138188..comments2024-03-21T14:56:18.159-04:00Comments on Tango Therapist: Pneuma-Tango: Solution Number FiveTango Therapisthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12548118004604256736noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8035244062520832583.post-23435497001760494252010-05-15T01:27:30.008-04:002010-05-15T01:27:30.008-04:00Thanks for all your comments, mis tangueras! The ...Thanks for all your comments, mis tangueras! The depth of the comments are perhaps better than the article! Regarding the music -- Solution 7, that has just been "published" so check that out. Also, another article is in draft that address why music is also a problem for men (socialization that moving to music is a target for public ridicule). For me, music is therapeutic, but it has it's problems for many in the area of rejection too.Tango Therapisthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12548118004604256736noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8035244062520832583.post-25175359027259697452010-05-01T10:59:28.256-04:002010-05-01T10:59:28.256-04:00I totally agree with the power of the embrace. Not...I totally agree with the power of the embrace. Nothing soothes me more than just walking in a good embrace either as a leader or a follower.<br><br>I experienced the awakening of the power of the embrace when I took a class in Buenos Aires last year. The teacher asked us to close our eyes, start walking, and embrace the first person we came in contact with while still keeping our eyes closed. It was a big step in trust for me, but I did it. I felt a hand on mine and went into a regular Tango close embrace. Then the instructor told us to hug the person and to keep on gently adjusting the position in order to increase the comfort. I was lucky to be in the arms of someone with such a tender and caring embrace that at one point all my defenses and guards were shattered. I felt all of them fall to the floor. It was such an incredibly freeing feeling. I walked out of that room a difference person. When I got back to the US, people asked me what happened in BsAs because I seemed so different - but they couldn't define the difference. I was told, "You're... glowing!"EileenPnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8035244062520832583.post-32529649912518114452010-04-27T16:06:27.538-04:002010-04-27T16:06:27.538-04:00Actually, I think these are the easiest solutions ...Actually, I think these are the easiest solutions to the rejection (not just tango) I have ever heard. And they work! <br>I recently noticed that I was getting bored at the milongas. I think I reached that point where I was no longer a beginner and was “proud” of it. So I only dance with my partner, my teacher and another experienced leader. I was happy. Until my partner started going out of town a lot, my teacher was busy and the last guy was busy as well. <br>I sat at the milongas full of myself and could not enjoy dancing with anyone else. I was at the point where I was actually considering quitting dancing. <br>When I shared my “flat” experience with Mark, he was so kind to let me into his more advanced solutions before he published them. Anyway, I decide to give it a try and went to a milonga holding to the solution 3 (get out and dance), 6 (dance with the community), and 7 (dance to the music). Also, Mark told me that most of the leaders don’t make it because of the feeling of rejection. That’s completely opened my eyes and I realized how selfish I was when I refused to dance with the beginners. <br>Anyway, I went to dance keeping in mind 367 and I was amazed how well it worked. I reconnected with the leaders that I used to ignore, I put my soul and heart into the dance to make their experience with me the best and I listened to the music phrase figuring out what it is trying to tell us. Of course, occasionally the connection was not just there but I would not give up by using solution 6 – dance with the community. I told myself how lucky I am by being surrounded with such wonderful and intelligent people that became my family. <br>My tango experience completely changed. I no longer sit at the milongas waiting for a “good” leader to ask me to dance. In fact, even on a slow nights when most people are out of town, I still get a lot of dances. And I feel blessed when I reach my goal to fully give myself to my partner at this particular moment and hope that I get the same back. I also discovered, that most of the time I don’t remember “fancy” steps that guys throw into a dance, but what I do remember is every single beautiful connection and embrace I experienced.tangolessonhttp://tangolesson.livejournal.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8035244062520832583.post-86168890252821024822010-04-27T12:26:17.255-04:002010-04-27T12:26:17.255-04:00I so agree with what you wrote about the power of ...I so agree with what you wrote about the power of the embrace under every circumstance. <br><br>But walking in the embrace to music has even more spiritual and emotional power. It can connect one to the Universe!tangocheriehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10012220622641996877noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8035244062520832583.post-43604358080148348752010-04-27T10:48:15.815-04:002010-04-27T10:48:15.815-04:00I'm so glad you wrote this post, I've been...I'm so glad you wrote this post, I've been so excited, waiting for installment #5. I think what you wrote is absolutely true, and has so much potential. So many of us have a hard time giving up the idea that we are separate, isolated creatures responsible for "fixing ourselves" all on our own (read any self-help books lately? Many of those books do more harm than good) and then presenting ourselves back to society when we're "healed". But we need each other to heal. We need to connect - and more and more the research shows that the physical connection matters. Hugging in particular - just look at this video about Amma, the hugging saint: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tysCHF57uYc.<br><br>These ideas may be hard for some to swallow. It's too big, too much of an unknown, too much out of the comfort zone. Again, I'm so excited by this post - about the possibilities that lie ahead. ---mariMari Johnsonhttps://profiles.google.com/103462873333877980961noreply@blogger.com