tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8035244062520832583.post6936248836586599116..comments2024-03-21T14:56:18.159-04:00Comments on Tango Therapist: Envy is not the Way!Tango Therapisthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12548118004604256736noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8035244062520832583.post-39159124531710021422014-08-04T09:31:39.416-04:002014-08-04T09:31:39.416-04:00MOCKBA: Before dancers start wondering about thei...MOCKBA: Before dancers start wondering about their predestined, hormone-poisoned bodies leading them to envy and gloating, let's think this through with a large amount distrust of the diagnosis-happy profession that has "discovered" the oxytocin link to envy and gloating. The researcher in the article you quote, Dr. Kemp from Australia, has some interesting points; however, I reject his medical model, which will certainly help open up new clinics to treat newly invented disorders. What will we have next: Clinics for loving fathers and mothers who cry when their children leave home or at their children's weddings? Perhaps somatic psychology would say that mothers and fathers who hug their children a lot and really love them will produce from their brain (hypothalamus)lots of oxytocin, and THEREFORE they are at risk for envy and gloating! Sure, loving parents one day must deal the risk of not being willing to let their children bond to new people when their children grow up. Yet, emotionally mature parents WANT their children to bond to their future wives/husbands, and are able to let go without "gloating." Blaming a high level of hormones is evidence of an infant science (somatic psychology) being naïve about what wise people have long known about gain and loss (jealousy) or longing (envy). It is really quite naïve for somatic psychologists to attempt to make every positive thing an "addiction" in our lives. Every arm-chair psychologist makes tango an addiction; but is the joy of tango or the joy of holding your child an addiction? Once "treated" will we stop dancing or holding our children? :-) The medical model is a way of making money for "treatment" of all sorts of human concerns of loss. Once upon a time envy/jealousy/gloating was "treated" by wisdom, philosophy or spiritual counsel. But wise people and philosphers and spiritual advisers cannot get paid because they do not have "patients." Please be leery of "discoveries" of hormons being in our bodies. We used to call them "warm fuzzies." Dr. Kemp could have easily used "warm fuzzies" for "oxytocin" and we would have better understood that he's talking about stuff we have all long known. The full article can be seen at: http://www.psychologicalscience.org/index.php/news/releases/the-dark-side-of-oxytocin.html Tango Therapisthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12548118004604256736noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8035244062520832583.post-17388821129796810582014-08-01T10:44:07.299-04:002014-08-01T10:44:07.299-04:00The surge of oxytocin resulting from embrace and r...The surge of oxytocin resulting from embrace and rhythmic motion and positive emotions results in a lasting memory of tango bliss, of trust and connection. But the longer-term physiological effects of oxytocin have also been shown to include <a href="http://www.psychologicalscience.org/index.php/news/releases/the-dark-side-of-oxytocin.html'" rel="nofollow">heightened envy and gloating</a>. These negative effects may be modulated by individual sensitivities and predispositions which may be fully or partially out of psychological controlMOCKBAhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05150628026789690963noreply@blogger.com