tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8035244062520832583.post2372928922048336648..comments2024-03-21T05:39:38.636-04:00Comments on Tango Therapist: Rejection: SOLUTION SIXTango Therapisthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12548118004604256736noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8035244062520832583.post-38121664186956783462014-05-15T18:36:10.610-04:002014-05-15T18:36:10.610-04:00It is easy to say I'm am x so that is why y do...It is easy to say I'm am x so that is why y doesn't dance with me. I hear these comments from all dancers, both men and women. While there is some basis of truth, more often than not shyness, other demands, or other opportunities taken are why a particular dancer doesn't dance with another. I can have an idea that I would like to catch a tanda with a particular dancer, but unless the music works for both of us it's not a good idea. Additionally either they or I may be committed to dancing with someone else when the appropriate music comes on.smwhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02872985563424976698noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8035244062520832583.post-87386598453313124312014-05-15T18:32:52.093-04:002014-05-15T18:32:52.093-04:00I think that solution 6 ends up being the long ter...I think that solution 6 ends up being the long term solution. My community used to be very small and divided. As some of the teachers have mellowed and some of the non-teachers have stepped up to organize more it has gradually blended. You can still see the milongas within a milonga at some of the major events, but that has less to do with particular teachers and attitudes and more to do with particular dancers styles and tastes.<br />New dancers cannot imagine it taking years to become part of the community, but there are so many dancers that last for 6-24 months and then drop out for one reason or another that I can completely understand now why it does take years both for learning the dance and for getting to slowly know and trust the people.smwhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02872985563424976698noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8035244062520832583.post-44793186741140856152010-05-15T01:41:39.053-04:002010-05-15T01:41:39.053-04:00Come to Austin! :-) The most important thing is t...Come to Austin! :-) The most important thing is the sentence: "The community continues with you or without you." So I hope you slowly become part of the solution.<br><br>I know the tango communities in several places on the globe. I started in El Paso, which is bitterly divided. Kaiserslautern, Germany had a wonderful community at one time, but now a very critical teacher has all the tangueras focused on the wrong things and very critical of the men. The size of the community has dwindled. San Antonio is full of great dancers, but also is divided. In all cases that I know, the teachers could find solutions but do not. It's a type of dance/movement fundamentalism.Tango Therapisthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12548118004604256736noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8035244062520832583.post-5584206817020306412010-05-13T18:17:01.706-04:002010-05-13T18:17:01.706-04:00I tried your so solution No.6 long time ago. It di...I tried your so solution No.6 long time ago. It didn't seem to work at all. The problem is the tango community itself. The dancers/groups judge the others based on age and which school you are from. If you are not one of them or have no potential to join the "gang", you are totally ignored. My tango community here is not large. There are more than a handful teachers. Almost every teacher has his/her own group. Some teachers recruit "frieds" by age. In my opionion, this is the pettiest crowd in the tango world. Maybe I should move to your town one day.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com