tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8035244062520832583.post8741570869098337423..comments2024-03-21T14:56:18.159-04:00Comments on Tango Therapist: Tango's a bad boy magnet?Tango Therapisthttp://www.blogger.com/profile/12548118004604256736noreply@blogger.comBlogger2125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8035244062520832583.post-59956633026528017782014-11-15T11:30:05.353-05:002014-11-15T11:30:05.353-05:00Love & Tango.. the strange couple?
Interest...Love & Tango.. the strange couple?<br /><br /><br /><br />Interesting dialogue sociologically, and above all from a ‘Tango Teraphist’ point of view, trying to find whether some ‘types’ (men/women) and ‘behaviours’ could be found and defined in ‘tango life’, since we can see that some basic dynamics tend to be reproduced in the mentioned ‘groups’ of people that , after or before and from different positions and perspectives, have to do and manage with emotions born ‘with and in’ tango .<br /><br /><br /><br />If I have to speak basing on my own personal experiences, (which could not be quite interesting in that psychological framework, but I see that you - dear TT - invite us to share personal opinions) : well, having passed some years in such a ‘tango-ambient’ and of course with different levels, from time to time, of emotional implication (envolving me directly, or seen between people I met) .. I ‘ve reached one simple conclusion , perhaps suggesting a rule of being.. just if someone wants to grow with the chance of getting things finally working – in love / tango – for him/herself.<br /><br /><br /><br />And this simple assumption is that tango has to make way - and space – for ‘true’ love, while - at the same time - love would have to let tango to be lived quite nicely.<br /><br /><br /><br />Not always easy, or granted.<br /><br /><br /><br />As a consequence the discriminants (and possible limits for this quite ‘evolved chance’) are first the real commitment and implication of the couple, then the level of maturity of the two in managing the (single and both) tango-life with balance and respect for all they share ( meaning as a couple and between other people).<br /><br />Anyway I think that a sense of priorities in life, that each of us values personally, has not to be lost.. and I wish myself to be able to feel anytime whatever comes first, according to the situation and the needing of my heart.<br /><br /><br /><br />Life today is sometimes enough stressful and complicated and, apart tango-life, two person that have the luck to meet and share something significative (this is the game..love happens cause each of the two can see the other really as a ‘special one’, between many others), they have early to manage with a relation, and it can grow itself in a quite difficult field , for different incidental causes: work and its problems, sometimes physical distance, the right space to be left for inclinations and interests of both, and the natural sequence of facts and feelings of every day.<br /><br /><br /><br />I think that tango-life can add one more (sometimes dangerous) variable in this almost fragile dynamics, or it can become a test-case.<br /><br /><br /><br />If one, or sometimes both, doesn’t know how to manage and behave, soon there is the chance that he/she begins to manipulate his ‘levers’ in tango (I mean of his/her ability and skills, personal charm and attractive and some other things quite trivial to be mentioned) to make the relation perhaps not so ‘unconditioned’, and probably it is the moment when the other begins to feel a little ‘put aside’ , wondering if his/her lover has really other goals, or a true interest in the relation.<br /><br /><br /><br />So people, if you want that that ‘strange couple’ could work with pleasure and quite no sufferings, you have to treat each one of the two fellows , with a light, sensitive and tender hand.<br /><br /><br /><br />And this goes in the way of your interest : of persons, who grew up, in love and tango.<br /><br /><br /><br />These are my thoughts, I wanted to share.. I apologize if they have less to do with the sociological/emotional hypothesis of the article.<br /><br /><br /><br />The same I want to thank you, TT, for your interesting contents! Grazie.<br /><br /><br /><br />Saluti a tutti gli amanti (e) tangueri! (kind regards to all the lovers and tangueros/as)<br /><br /> <br /><br />Marco ViolaAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15686697842149054837noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8035244062520832583.post-58889707373788854812014-11-13T07:01:32.983-05:002014-11-13T07:01:32.983-05:00I'm afraid it is not that simple. The tango wo...I'm afraid it is not that simple. The tango world is rather similar to a high school. Roughly equal shares of men and women share a lot of time together. They meet, go together for a time and separate, meet somebody else and so on. As in high school there are log term couples, short term couples, long term singles. There is friendship, jealousy, hostility. The difference to any other adult environment is the quantity. We usually heave a limited number of friends, colleagues etc. In Tango the group is not infinite but much, much larger. Things happen faster. People get younger when dancing, not only because of the physical exercise, but also behave like teenagers until they get used to this environment and grow again into tango-adults.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com